You're cordially invited ... but don't tell!(Ethical Dilemma) (Brief article)

• Author: Galanes, Philip

I don't invite all of my friends to my parties. One of them has a habit of telling some of the uninvited about the gatherings. That has ruined several of my friendships. I explained to her that blabbing is unkind and hurts two people: the uninvited person and me. She promised to stop, but I just learned that she did it again. Now what? -Anonymous, Minnesota

YOU'RE RIGHT, what your friend is doing is unkind. But it still seems unlikely to ruin your friendships...