Have you ever thought to yourself, If I just had the guts? Ever looked back and wished you'd been braver? Chances are you have. Many times.
We all need to be brave at times. But let's face it, acting bravely is easier said than done. It requires rising above our innate desire for protecting ourselves from pain and avoiding the risk of losing something we value-like our pride, our job or the approval of our friends.
It's little wonder so many people tiptoe timidly through life to eventually look back and regret far more the risks they didn't take than those they did.
But no one is born with an immunity to fear, and all of us can learn to rise above it. Courage is therefore not an attribute endowed on the lucky. It's a learned behavior, a skill. And like all skills, it can be strengthened and mastered with daily practice.
If you're unsure where to begin, here are a few acts of everyday courage to get you started on building your courage muscles for life.
SET A BOLD GOAL.
We fail far more from timidity than we ever do from overdaring. So if there's an area of your life right now--your business, your body, your relationship status--in which you aren't inspired, set yourself a bold goal that really lights you up (even if it scares you a little, too). Like going on 10 dates in the next 10 weeks, or doubling your revenue in the next two years, or running a marathon. Most people underestimate themselves and never get to know what they're capable of. Don't be one of them. You've got to think bigger before you can act bigger.
SAY NO TO THE GOOD.
It's very easy to fill your day being busy. The question is, busy doing what? If you are saying yes to the many "good" offers, invitations and opportunities that come your way, you could be using up all your capacity to pursue the truly great things waiting on you. Does saying no mean you might disappoint people occasionally? Sure. But better that than to feel disappointed in yourself later on. Sometimes you have to say no to the good to create space for the great.
ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT.
If you find yourself frustrated that you're not getting what you want or need, consider that you may not have asked for it. People aren't mind readers...