The Value of Mentoring.

• Author: Aldisert, Lisa
• Position: Brief Article - Column

The word "mentor" was first mentioned in Homer's epic, the Odyssey. Mentor was the loyal friend and adviser of Odysseus, King of Ithaca. He was also teacher of Odysseus' son, Telemachus. When Odysseus went to fight in the Trojan War, Mentor was responsible for taking care of his son and his household.

When I was a young banker, Charles was my first mentor. He was my friend and colleague who later became my manager. I will always remember the encouragement and support he gave me, particularly when I felt misunderstood or overwhelmed. Although we haven't worked together or lived in the same city for years, we stay in touch and continue to be important in each other's lives.

I recently saw Charles when I was in Chicago attending a conference. As stimulating as the conference was, the conversation we had at lunch was the highlight of the trip. He is a master of asking great questions and gave me fresh insight into a new project I'm working on. It is a reciprocal alliance filled with mutual respect, deep friendship and loyalty. Our relationship has unquestionably made a difference in my life, and has taught me the value of having a mentor and becoming a better mentor to others.

Who is your mentor?

If you don't have a mentor now--or have never had one--it's time to seek a relationship with someone who can stretch your thinking, challenge your old way of doing things and even facilitate change in your life. Starting today, you can seek wisdom from someone you respect, and this person will make significant contributions to your progress.

Don't be afraid to pursue a mentoring relationship. While it is certainly possible that someone might decline to become your mentor, due to limited time or lack of interest--most people are flattered when asked to be a mentor. If someone isn't interested, move on and ask someone...