If you've lost your job recently, you may have noticed that the world of job loss and job search is very different than it was 10 or 20 years ago. These days, employees in the narrow web and label manufacturing sector can lose their jobs for many different reasons. In my sphere, I see people at all job levels laid off when a company is acquired or merged, and duplicate jobs are eliminated.
People often lose jobs when businesses are restructured for investment purposes. In many cases, a senior-level (expensive) position is targeted to achieve cost savings. Or, part-time workers are eliminated and outsourced to make the employment ratios look good to stockholders or prospective buyers.
Through no fault of their own, people lose jobs and find themselves stunned and unprepared. In these situations, it's easy to fall back on old ideas. Times have changed, however, and you simply can't start the job search process in the same way you did 10 or 20 years ago. You have to open yourself to new ways of doing things.
Letting go of old ideas means you have to ...
Let go of the limitation that your job status is unfair. Life rarely goes exactly as we hope. If you are recently unemployed and you want your old job back, fight for it. I hope it goes without saying that when I say "fight," I mean use the employment laws of your state--not revenge and violence. If you don't want your job back, move on. Don't wallow in feelings of injustice. It's unproductive. You have to come to peace about losing your job. If you need to see a counselor to help you move on, by all means do that. I have, over the years, worked with employment, business and family counselors to help gain mental clarity about situations. It helps to know you are not alone.
Let go of the concept of what happiness and success "should" look like. Maybe you're used to all the trappings--house, vacations, material goods--or maybe your spouse has retired and doesn't want to go back to work while you job hunt. These are discussions that need to happen early, or there will be unhappiness and resentment later. Compromise and reassessing your expectations are essential during this process, even if you are only making decisions about yourself. Think about what you really need to be happy and feel good about yourself.
Let go of the notion that it's all about you. If you could see my inbox, you would see how many people are struggling with job loss and job searches. Take off the blinders and reach out...