Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Cleis Press, 2008, 290 pages
I have had the opportunity to review a galley copy of Tristan's new book, and I found it to be a great addition to the literature on relationships. I have known her work for several years and met her at various meetings, and I am impressed by the many capabilities this delightful woman has, including creating and directing sexual education films, writing a syndicated column for Village Voice called "Pucker Up" and several other sexually oriented books. She also maintains an open relationship, and travels extensively to speak to interested audiences nationwide.
Opening Up is the result of a great deal of research on her part and over one hundred twenty responses from people and groups who are involved in responsible non-monogamy. She integrates their stories with the specific details of what she understands of the wide variety of practices that constitute open relationships. In my opinion, she has not missed anything important in this comprehensive guide. It is not a "how to" book, but an encyclopedia of possibilities to help people structure relationships that don't follow the socially approved model. The examples she provides from the interviews put these ideas in a meaningful context.