Mom, Dad, or Somewhere In Between: Role‐Relational Ambiguity and Children of Transgender Parents
Author | Jaclyn Tabor |
Published date | 01 April 2019 |
Date | 01 April 2019 |
DOI | http://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12537 |
J T Indiana University
Mom, Dad, or Somewhere In Between:
Role-Relational Ambiguity and Children of
Transgender Parents
Objective: This study introduces the concept of
role-relational ambiguity to explain the chal-
lenges some individuals face in adjusting to a
parent’s gender transition.
Background: When a parent undergoes a
gender transition, our society lacks both the
language and social scripts to describe how
parent-child relationships and roles should look
afterward. Yet little is understood about how
children of transgender parents experience a
parent’s transition.
Method: Drawing from in-depth interviews
with 30 adult children of transgender par-
ents, this article documents the occurrence of
role-relational ambiguity and how individuals
manage this ambiguity in the long term.
Results: Results indicate repeated discussions of
role-relational ambiguity in a majority of par-
ticipants. In the long term, participants devel-
oped a number of strategies for coping with
role-relational ambiguity.
Conclusion: Role-relational ambiguity is a
common occurrence for the children of trans-
gender people interviewed in this study. Yet, it
is evident that most of these participants were
actively engaged in attempts to restructure and
redene relationships with their transgender
Department of Sociology, Indiana University,1020E.
Kirkwood Avenue,744, Bloomington, IN 47405-7103
(jtabor@indiana.edu)
KeyWords: coping, gender roles, LGBTQ, parent-childrela-
tionships, transgender,transitions.
parents despite the obstacles presented by
role-relational ambiguity.
Implications: Role-relational ambiguity is an
understandable response to unexpected family
changes, and one that can be worked through
with time, understanding, and the proper
resources.
I
According to the 2015 U.S. Transgender Sur-
vey, the most comprehensive survey of trans-
gender (henceforth “trans”) people in the United
States, an estimated 18% of trans people are par-
ents (James, Herman, Rankin, Keisling, Mottet,
& Ana, 2016). Although research on nontra-
ditional families shows that lesbian, gay, and
bisexual (LGB) people are reporting increas-
ingly diverse pathways to parenthood (includ-
ing adoption, donor gametes, and surrogacy),
restrictive laws and medical culture regarding
gender diversity has meant that trans parents are
most likely to have children in heterosexual rela-
tionships prior to transitioning (DeSutter, 2001;
Nixon, 2013). In such contexts, all family mem-
bers, children included, can be seen as “transi-
tioning with” the trans person (Haines, Ajayi, &
Boyd, 2014; Hines, 2006). Yet, there are scant
resources and role models for how to see families
through this transition. Without such resources,
trans parents’ relationships with their children
are vulnerable (Lev, 2004).
A whole body of literature is dedicated
to exploring challenges children face when
506 Journal of Marriage and Family 81 (April 2019): 506–519
DOI:10.1111/jomf.12537
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