Love stinks, especially for Selena and Justin.

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There is such a thing as a love addiction, where the connection between two people is more chaotic than positive, but they cannot seem to separate, says psychologist Sherrie Campbell, author of Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person. One of the individuals usually is self-centered (Justin Bieber, for instance) and the other overempathic (Selena Gomez, for example). Bieber comes and goes as he pleases while Gomez is stuck in an unpredictable pattern of trying to let go, only to get sucked back in any time Bieber comes back and wants her.

Love addiction is a compulsive and chronic craving or pursuit of a lover in an effort to get our sense of security and worth from another person, Campbell indicates. These relationships always stay true to the extremes of infatuation and heartbreak, hardly ever functioning in the middle where true intimacy really can exist:

Infatuation. 'When we are in the infatuation phase, we believe we finally have gained that security, only to be horribly disappointed and empty again once the person decides he or she cannot commit after all. The negative consequences can be severe and yet the love addict continues to hang onto the...