Journey to manhood.

• Author: Douglas, Susan
• Position: The Arkansas high school murders were as much about gender and kid culture as it was guns and redneck culture - Column

Every Saturday, like thousands of parents around the country, I take my daughter to her soccer game. There, in this massive indoor facility, team after team of young girls compete against each other, running, sweating, hurling high fives while their parents and coaches cheer them on. And every Saturday I marvel at what a revolution this is over how girls grew up even ten years ago.

And yet, when something like the Jonesboro massacre happens, we have to confront the flip side of this revolution. There are all sorts of possibilities open to my daughter that were never there for me. There are also terrifying dangers for her not even on our radar screens when we were kids. Is it possible that, twenty-five years after the women's movement, boys and girls are more separated by the gender divide than ever?

Titanic broke box office records in part because adolescent girls have gone to see it multiple times. Many of them long to enter a world in which an androgynous young man insists that he loves a headstrong young woman precisely because she is independent and feisty.

At the same time, in real life, two pre-pubescent boys decided that the real way to deal with girls who might have minds of their own was to shoot them dead in their tracks. These boys weren't emulating Jack, Leonardo DiCaprio's character in Titanic. They were more like the brutish, stalker-fiance, who ran around the sinking ship trying to shoot the heroine because she rejected him.

The media's repeated use of the word "students" to refer to the victims was utterly inappropriate. The victims were girls. Their assailants were boys. These boys--one of whom was reportedly angry about being rejected by a girl--aimed at, and shot, only females, a pattern repeated in other acts of school violence over the past five years.

Much has been made of the Arkansas "gun culture," as upper-middle-class pundits smugly projected a national problem onto a bunch of "rednecks," a word rarely said but always implied. But these boys didn't get the scenario they so tragically enacted just from Arkansas--they got if from our national kid culture.

The easy availability of guns--one of the Jonesboro shooters reportedly got his first rifle at age six--remains a national disgrace, and the massacre has galvanized the gun-control forces in the country.

But guns aren't the only problem. Remember that fleeting moment in the 1970s when kids were supposed to be "free to be you and me"? Too much of corporate kid...