Commitment issues.

• Author: Martigani, Carina
• Position: Letters to the Editor - Letter to the editor

I received the March issue today and was surprised to read "To Wed or Not to Wed," by Stephanie Fairyington. I would have thought that as someone who could previously not marry legally, she would have thought through the concept with more depth.

Marrying is a right, not a duty or an obligation. Nor is it "sacred," as many conservatives or Republicans have claimed. People do not marry just because they are attracted to someone else or because they define fidelity in terms of a mainly sexual routine with another person.

I do not know how old Fairyington is, but after reading her article, I get the feeling that she is someone, if not young, at the very least immature enough to believe that marriage remains a yearning because humans are unrealistic, hopelessly romantic, or deluded liars.

Real loving is not the same as being in love (for a good look at this, re-read Plato). Long marriages endure not because the people involved stifle their true selves, but because they change and evolve together, and their definition of marriage evolves with them. What differentiates a good marriage from a bad...