Bobblehead Dad.

Author:Diehn, Andi
Position:Book review

Jim Higley (author); BOBBLEHEAD DAD; Greenleaf Book Group (Nonfiction: Autobiography & Memoir) $14.95 ISBN: 9781608321421

Byline: Andi Diehn

A cancer diagnosis changes everything: work, relationships with family and friends, one's perspective on what makes a good or bad day. Jim Higley didn't expect the summer after his own diagnosis and subsequent surgery to be the best one he ever had, but that's what it was. Even though he was in pain, even though physical activities that he once accomplished automatically now required resting, planning and slowness, Higley had never felt more in the moment. He realized that his life had been on autopilot, and it took a deadly disease to flick the switch and return him to the present.

Most readers know what autopilot feels like. We go to work, come home, process dinner, tend to children, watch T.V., go to bed, and do the same things the next day. Higley describes this as being a bobbleheadaone of those figurines with a springy neck who nod ad infinitum at whatever they're facing. Higley knew he was going through the motions, and when all of a sudden his days took on a precise hue of finitude, he stopped his bobbleheading and started paying attention to the people he loved so much.

Higley grew up the youngest of five brothers in a family that revolved around their mother. She fed, taught, gardened with, and talked to them. When she died of brain cancer after only a couple weeks of illness, the familyaespecially Higley and his father, the only ones still living at homeawas traumatized. Higley slipped naturally...

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