Being Relational; The Seven Ways to Quality Interaction & Lasting Change.

Author:Silverstein, Barry
Position:Book review

Louise Phipps Senft and William Senft; BEING RELATIONAL; Health Communications (Nonfiction: Self-Help) 19.95 ISBN: 9780757318801

Byline: Barry Silverstein

Combining elements of psychology, philosophy, and spirituality, two professional mediators offer a comprehensive approach to relating to others.

Louise Phipps Senft and William Senft, both mediators and lawyers who operate Baltimore Mediation together, acknowledge that interactions with others are often transactional -- largely self-serving and "placing little value on the quality of interaction with the other person and their well-being." Their objective with this book is to help change those interactions into relational ones because "you enter into a sense of connectedness with others" and "being relational brings ease to interactions."

Being relational involves seven specific states of being, according to the authors: "Being Engaged, Being Centered, Being Grounded, Being Clear, Being Generous, Being Humble, Being Kind." The authors suggest that being relational can involve being all seven ways at once or just one of the ways at a specific time.

The chapters in the book address each of the seven states individually and in considerable detail, followed by questions that help the reader apply the content to his or her own life. For example, the chapter "Being Grounded" discusses "the idea that...

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