2017] AGGRESSIVE ENCOUNTERS & WHITE FRAGILITY 2019
So, I say, “Wait, not true. I was . . .” THEN DUDE COMES OVER TO
ME, while I am in MIDsentence, GETS IN MY FACE—he is a white
male, both older and ALOT shorter than me—and YELLS IN MY
PERSONAL SPACE that he was there first and I need to wait my turn.
Wait, did you read that? GETS IN MY FACE?????????? YELLS?????
MY???????????? PERSONAL?????????? SPACE???????????????
At this point in the story, I won’t share the exact words or tone or
volume of my response because I don’t want to lose some of you FB
fam who think so highly of me . . . but suffice it to say, I DO owe some
context (and maybe a piece of apology) to all in West County who
unwittingly became a part of my response. . . .
I will say that I demanded to see a manager. Poor sales person. He
was like, “I’m sorry! I didn’t know.” I assured him that I had no beef
with him. He did the right thing by asking who was next. The
problem was with the customer. Indeed, what should be done in
those situations? Maybe you call for backup immediately. I don’t
know. What I do know is that I was NOT about to be ignored and
made to wait. I know that. So, after demanding to see a manager, I
decided, hell with this, I am leaving.
As I am about to walk away, crazy man comes back near me and says:
“Look! I got here 20 minutes ago! No one was here so I got other
stuff I needed and now I’m back so I was here and I am next!”
Read that sentence again. “L ook! I go t here 20 minutes ago! No o ne
was here so I got other stuff I needed and now I’m back so I was here
and I am next!”
WHAT????? WHO in the world can LEAVE a line, go get other shit,
and then come back and tell the people who were not there before
that they were there first????????????
WOW. Kicker: He adds: “I didn’t even see you. You were NOT here.”
Hmmm. . . I didn’t even see you.
So, (1) he looked at me when he arrived. I KNOW he saw me. (2) I
am just under 6 feet tall. Tall girl! (3) I have beautiful chocolate skin.
Beautiful! (4) I have beautiful locs (thanks Michelle Yikhenah
Jamillah Borland). Locs! (5) I have really powerful eyes! Powerful!
(6) I am a “healthy” child as my mom would say. Big! And DESPITE
ALL THAT, he didn’t SEE me? Really?
So - Yes, an angry black woman was in Home Depot on Manchester
in West County today. BUT she had a RIGHT to be angry. . . And
please, don’t write a comment telling me that I spent more time on
this post than it is worth. I get to decide what parts of my life I want