Family Violence: a Colorado Plague
Publication year | 1997 |
Pages | 29 |
1997, November, Pg. 29. Family Violence: A Colorado Plague
Vol.26, No. 11, Pg. 29
The Colorado Lawyer
November 1997
Vol. 26, No. 11 [Page 29]
November 1997
Vol. 26, No. 11 [Page 29]
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CBA President's Message to Members
Family Violence: A Colorado Plague
by Rebecca Koppes Conway
CBA President's Message to Members
Family Violence: A Colorado Plague
by Rebecca Koppes Conway
Let one lawyer tell you her story
"I come to the door of my house; every time, I stop. I
pray that when I open the door he is gone
"I still do that, even though we divorced more than four
years ago. The divorce took three years. During that time, I
could find him in my house at any time
"He says he has not been back since the divorce was
final. I don't know. I think I find things have been
moved. Things are missing. Hyper-vigilant is exactly how you
would describe me.
"It didn't start this way. He was charming. He is
also a lawyer. He hit me for the first time ten years ago. I
talked too long on the telephone. Before that, I had started
answering for every minute of every day in fear the hitting
would start.
"I tried to make things peaceful. I had children. And
now I am certain you are asking the
'why-didn't-you-just-leave' question. I am a
lawyer. I know about proof. I know many times I questioned
whether I could prove what was happening. To this day, I
don't know that I could.
"I tried to convince him to leave. I tried to get out. I
had children. It is an incredible nuisance to get little kids
up and around when you want to go somewhere. Try doing it in
the middle of the night with a maniac screaming at and
hitting you.
"And, try imagining how embarrassing it was. After all,
only poor, ignorant women get beat up, right?
"Even now, I am not revealing my name. You may not know
I ever had an injury. I had the teeth that were knocked out
replaced. I claimed I had the flu when I had a black eye.
"That was an accident. Usually, he hit the back of my
head so it wouldn't show.
"You may figure out who I am. To this day, I don't
tell many people. I don't think you can understand me.
Oh, and how did I finally get out?
"I told him I didn't think I cared anymore if I
died, but I was not going to let these children grow up with
this.
"Now, I just pray when I open the door to my house that
he doesn't take me up on that."
I received this in the mail recently. It was from someone I
had known for years. I was surprised at first...
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